One night, in the Gorm goddess Court, La Mata old people are with me eating his neighbor is the owner sent by cell Mulberry just call the mountains the sheep, drinking refreshing wine of Mary Sullivan. At this time, came from the inside Yuanba captivating dance a twist. I could not suppress his excitement, how much people want to feel the Mosuo A twist ball. I reach for glass, and the La Mata old kill the last glass of wine, we hastily ran toward Yuanba.
Yuan Ba, the peak and visitors crowd, good faction of people of the sea. Here, there are dressed in festive costumes, Mosuo young men and women, there is youthful Business School, Chongqing, Chongqing Teachers College, the professional students. Yuanba central, hobble around in a big iron pot, pot filled with mountains calling Qinggang fuel, burning flames inside the bonfire. Red flame, faint moonlight, melodious flute mellowed, light and elegant dance steps off each other, confusing. Lead dancers wore a white hat, with the flute blowing a twist dance, Xiaoxiao Sasa to walk in the forefront of dance team. The Dancing Men and women, regardless of nationality, one by one arm in arm, Jianbingzhejian, faint blue around the bonfire, dancing down the counter-clockwise. Joyful crowd, the beautiful dance with the dance melody and change, sometimes dance light, energetic and sometimes rough, sometimes warm and cheerful, sometimes hidden bitterness tactfully, giving people Hunpu natural, casual ease feeling. Red Baiqun in Gone with the Wind spin, Tsai-chu Follie in flash, and love songs has passed, steps Innocent Steps, a good one continuous roll of color queue! At this time, my heart has never had a germination of shock, deeply felt Mosuo people sing and dance the national nature, cheerful warm breath of life. Also felt the family of nations from the unity and harmony of the peaceful atmosphere. Although I am not good at dancing, watching these lovely young men and women Mosuo, there are those who face with a somewhat childlike naive, timid cowardly heart to me adding to the fraction of virtually the courage and strength.
Dancing Color queuing in a Moso girl dressed in costumes, waving to me repeatedly, I pull oneself together a look, it is not often at home to help to Lamatamei La Mata do?
I remember when you first arrived in La Mata at home, I often see a Ruhuasiyu girl, while Ze Cai, while your rice Duancai one minute to do this or that, like their elders who have never been told to like, she La Mata consciously aware of help within its capacity to do things at home. Looked at the girl's every movement, from the heart how much I admire the Mosuo girl ah!
The girl is none other than she is Lamatamei. She had a rosy face, dark, small lips, crooked Xiumei. Whenever the Jian Zhao stranger she was always so smile smile, smile sweet beautiful, as if the flower bud Phi Shy full Dew roses. The elderly, according to La Mata introduced Lamatamei 17-year-old that year, it admitted to the Southwest Institute for Nationalities. 511 this year, holiday, she returned to her health that she raised the lake.
I am flattered to Lamatamei walked around. She extended a warm delicate little hands, pulled me into the joy of the sea.
Mosuo heard friends say, in the flea beetle body rub dance, when the boys finger girl Nao Nao palm, and if girls ignore you, indicated that she was unwilling to Hello; if the girl in the palm of your hand back to scratch look at that girls love you, Tiao Wan dance, you can follow the girls into her "Nizar meaning" (Greenhouse, show floor. for women who received male Ashok bedroom).
I appreciate the Lamatamei slim and graceful figure, Graceful's dance, my heart started sinking, restless stir up, I intend to Nao Nao several of her palm, try the girl's heart. Can be thought of home, his wife and children a lot of benefits, think of La Mata a warm hospitality, my personal feelings Common sense has finally defeated.
During the dance, the young students who have requirements and Moso young men and women posed for pictures. I have been inspired from, hurriedly borrowed from a friend Mosuo ethnic clothing, and Lamatamei together make it difficult to forget the beautiful moments freeze-frame on my film, forever and ever buried in the depths of my memory .
6, strange mating introduce the elderly, according to La Mata and field research, has continued to go Mosuo people since ancient times marriage customs, Pangu unchanged. When the boys and girls line of the "Cheng Lai-Lei Ting" (ie, boys pants, girls wear skirts), the marks they have entered the adult stage. When the boys grow up to 17, and girls after the age of 15, they shared the productive labor in love for each other to a certain stage of development, we can establish a "Ashok" relationship.
Ashok relationship established after the boys and girls must carry out a kind of known as "Kenichiro hoarse" ceremony (exchange gifts). I once La Mata old Walking in the Lugu Lake River, on the lad heard at first hand a Zhucao Chuan Moso girl, the one in Lake of the crops the ground and shout "Ah Hei hei ... ... ... ... Kenichiro hoarse over" " Ah Hei hei ... ... ... ... Kenichiro hoarse over "
I asked La Mata: "They cry what?"
He walked told me: "This is the Moso Age A-mei, and are ready to exchange gifts do make Ashok. Talk to them through exchanges of Mt switch to sea singing in antiphonal style dancing and other activities, slowly love after initiation, the boys begin to ask people to buy their own clothes, girls dress shoes, belts and other gifts sent to the girl home to his mother explained what he wanted. When the mother's daughter to seek the views generally, if the daughter's consent, accept it immediately sent the gifts. In addition, Mothers were also invited to the boys, linen pants or a rebate of a linen belt.
" 'Grab' thing, and watch his reaction, but also a way to make Ashok. If the boy, like the body snatching girls little thing, if the girls just laughed off the chase, which shows that girls willing to work with boys knot To Ashok; if the girls face serious bent on the recovery of our own things, which said the girls refused to boys lover. On the contrary already, girls can also be used in the same way to snatch the body or the hands of a boy thing, in order to observe and formed a man willing to Ashok's.
"Ashok relationship is established, to go through a period of time even a secret visit home. Often in the dead of night when the boy quietly went to women Ashok house, according to prearranged secret sign or rejection stones, or pipe knock and so on. girls hear a sound, it will immediately open the door to back the boys to the introduction of his own greenhouse, sharing the joy of Yin Yu. However, in pre-dawn, the boys must leave the greenhouse.
"Through a period of secret visits, the girls can be their own Ashok made public. In this way, the boys can be open to their female Ashok's home. Girls family can drink tea and chat room in the Hall , and can enjoy their warm hospitality.
"After Sasaki worked to make Ashok boys, walking in the first marriage, you must also bring gifts to a very trusted person or his boyfriend, but also to bring tea and sugar, or to the girl's dresses and other gifts. F the child's grandmother would bring gifts to the boys were sent to their relatives and neighbors, in fact, also announced his daughter already had Ashok. That night, my mother would bring the boys diverted to his own daughter The greenhouse, forming Qin Jin's good. "
"Since this form of marriage so well, then take the marriage does not occur since there is domestic violence, family conflicts, or furans?" I asked, puzzled.
"No! Absolutely not! I have lived sixty or seventy years old, Lugu Lake in our surrounding areas, there has never been heard of where there have been domestic violence. If the girls are not satisfied with the boys, she can reject his visit, male the child is also very consciously not to women Ashok house. On the contrary already, the boys if we do not like girls, he can no longer go to girl's home, over time, girls can also go to make their own Ashok . relations severed after a free gift with each other before, but also end of the matter is no longer recover. "
I have great emotion, said: "You Moso marriage customs good, if we take the Han people can practice polygamy, it be nice呀! We have the Mainland for family conflicts, family disputes, the distribution of family property, resulting in a lot of breakdown in family relationships, which a decade or two years, the geometric rise in the divorce rate. because of the breakdown of family relationships, bringing a lot of sequels: Some kids do not care who became parents of street children; either because of divorce became a personal enemy, and even a lot of people out of homicide. "
La Mata with a sigh: "hey! Too cruel! Too cruel! Us here have never heard of someone who because of marital problems out of the murder, nor heard of dissolution of marriage, children no one care . Our children belong to the woman here at home, the child by the mother, uncle, aunt raising, M Ashok does not belong to the woman's family members, may not assume support obligations. But the men and Ashok could also be given to the woman must help, for example given to support the economic, busy woman at home when the Bang Bang Dry homework and point of whatever building they would help with their homework and so on. we are here, men are more free room and board in the women usually can also be Ashok home, you can live and eat in their own mother's home. "
I smiled and said: "Haha! Your marriage and the family system has been too consistent with human nature, and I think are worthwhile呀! Ah, there is a problem I do not know, like walking marriage system, Hao Shihao, if if the encounter bother to bring the men, not in this life to find many, many women do not know ah! "
La Mata silent a moment, shook his head and said: "No, under normal circumstances, some people make a lifetime, there is only one woman Ashok, only a very few number of Ashok's life to go, which is In the case of a last resort before doing so. "(To be continued)
